As much as I wish it wasn’t the case, my instinct is always to go to a dark place, especially when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I’m quick to say “no” and freak out. One thing I’ve learned that helps is that before allowing myself to react, I take a deep breath. It usually helps make whatever is coming at me less stressful. If that doesn’t work I try to break down what is bothering me and write down steps to overcome whatever the issue may be. I also find it’s helpful to ask myself if the issue will still bother me in a month.
In keeping with the fact that I now have more time on my hands, I’ve started a gratitude journal, which has been something on my to-do list for years. Every morning when I wake up and every night before I go to bed, I write three things I’m grateful for. It helps to not just think of these, but to actually write them down. Things can be as simple as dinner was great or as serious as my parents are healthy.
Focusing on what I can control is also helpful (one day maybe I’ll be able to wrap my head around radical acceptance). For example, I can’t get to the gym right now, but I can control what is in my fridge and what food I have easy access to (at least to some degree given the quarantine situation).
Helping others – whether it be helping an elderly get groceries if she or he is unable to leave the house, for example – or even simpler things like leaving extra tip money for all those working hard in tough times (like delivery people).
I realize these seem like small things, especially for anyone dealing with serious trauma. I am so thankful that my family has not been hit by Coronavirus and I pray every day for our continued health. Nonetheless I’ve found all of these points to be helpful and I hope those reading these can find some solace in them as well.